Chastity and lust: a guide on lust for the scrupulous

(Chastity South Africa)

Article by Marc Aupiais

What is lust: is loving beauty, breathing it in, holding the breath, and loving it? Surely, no: this is not the pursuit of sexual pleasure outside of the correct context and disposition. it is not the pursuit of sexual pleasure, but of beauty. Is love of the human form such: but this is not the case: Michael Angelo's art: Catholic art proves this. To draw in strength from a woman one loves: this is not lust, and to mildly admire the human form, is also not lust.

To sculpt the human form, is not lust either: but to cause another to sin by one's sculpting, is sin.

Should one marry, intending to use contraception, one very likely does not marry. To have sex with one's wife: using such methods: this is lust: yet not so with merely admiring beauty: least one admires it, as to endorse desires to take it as a substance for one's sexual pleasure, or sexually achieved purposes: apart from the context in which this is lawful within Catholic morality.

The use of the sexually purposed organs, so classified from their design, or the stimulation of sexual pleasure in such manner; apart from the correct context, is mortal sin: including certain actings taken upon by men: who chose to simulate something apart from the marital act. This is to do so with a false, non-existent woman: and while born of loneliness: is in fact selfish, and an insult against the wife, or future wife, or possible wife. To spill a certain substance, from one's self, into, or onto something other than the place for it: is sinful. In fact, to purposely do so: is an act of intrinsic evil": in catholic morality.

Pornography: this is lust, as it involves fantasies and thoughts, or the endorsement of some desires which are unlawful: or exposes the sexual act, apart from its proper place: which is supposed to be the context of in privacy, within marriage, with unitive, and pro-creative properties, or else, pornography causes a view of women, sexuality, men, or the act itself; which is banal: and not the fullness of such. It is mortal sin to use or view this: even if not out of lust: as it is promoting a culture of lust, and supporting the degradation of human dignity. If not lust, it is part of the mortal matter of the sin of wrath... such against those within it, and against many additionally: it is evil.

To view another as purely a means of sexual pleasure; also is lust.

When we call prostitutes immoral, it is either because they do something unsafe, that we flee them, or that they trade sexuality for advancement, or maintenance. Trading sex for love, or for a home, or for any sort of pleasure. Prostitutes, and others: do a trade. This is why marital love must be lifelong and unconditional, not some trade: based on advancement or pleasure: otherwise, what we see as wrong as prostitution, manifests in another ways in us. Love in this form may be pleasurable, and one can love pleasure, but not so as to view the partner as simply a means to such, and not a person and, if in proportion, where maintaining, and promoting, expressing unity, and openness to childbirth, are not kept from this exchange: but to trade sexual pleasure: is a wrong reason to do so. We know it: it is why prostitution is despised...

Love in such form, as to be moral must be "selfless": and open to childbirth: this is what evolution made love for, and what God caused marriage for: selfless love, union: everlasting love: an emblem of the relations of Love Himself: of the relationship between Father and Son, which eternally spawns the Holy Spirit, begotten, but never made: having never not existed.

Their relations are not sexual, rather: it is selfless love, it is care for one another: between two persons, which are love: which spawns the third; eternally: which also is love: all as one God, three persons.

Further, love: for a child, is not only natural, it is moral: so far, as the love itself is selfless: and it can only be, if the ideals, and concerns of the two: are concerns of one body: if both are selfless: as can only occur in in this act, when in marriage: and this is the dual: reciprocal selflessness: into which children must be born: loved: cared for. That said, a lack of this is not a reason to murder the child: just as a lack of our desires is no reason to kill ourselves: a person is a person, no matter how small, and also: even when they are vulnerable to death: which makes our body a corpse, to be respected, but oft considered: a "person" no more. Love, Christian love: can only refer to selflessness. It is unconditional: and this is the place for married love.

To reduce a living, breathing, moving human form to the body, and what pleasure it can give, this is evil: it is illogical, and it is wrong, and to view a person as an object of therapeutic, or pleasure endorsing material, and in this exclude them as a person: this also is a form of lust. Yes, one may purely admire their physical beauty, yet to imagine them or long for them to do certain things outside of marriage, to to long to use their form for this: or against their will, this is mortal sin. To imagine them naked: is it not wrath: is it not violating their God given right to privacy, and protection from uncaring eyes?

So, lust, is the pursuit of sexual pleasure, apart from the selfless, eternal unity of Marriage. It is also, when this pleasure of sexual organs is pursued by those who close themselves off from childbirth. Pursuing sexual pleasure apart from the possibility of such, in a relationship, and apart from unity: this is evil: if not seemingly always the matter of mortal sin.

Should one long for marriage in the mind, one must remember not to long for sexual pleasure: but for a relationship, in which sexual pleasure is just a small part, and in which this pleasure is nothing but a reward from God: for pursuing to manifest him properly, and for pursuing unity, and family, with this act: but not sexual pleasure for sexual pleasure's sake: and that those who do so outside of such, misrepresent God as not selfless, and not life, nor open to life: they say that God does not love God: for God himself; we know eternally maintains God: via his eternal love.

One should realize that God judges both what is, and what would be. This is how those lucky: saved in Baptism of Desire (I am speaking of Lumen Gentium XVI: Vatican II's Salvation outside the visible boundary of the Sacramental Holy Roman Catholic Church): are saved: in that given the opportunity, they would seek God properly. This is also why some others are not considered saved: and why the Gospel is so important. This is also how one, repentant of their sin, on the way to confession, dying in the car: should likely also see heaven: for they would confess. This is also perhaps why: he who fantasized about certain things with a woman not his own: outside of the context of selfless married love: this man: God judges: would do as he desires should the obstacles be removed. This is also why lust is the matter of mortal Sin: it is as mortal a sin as adultery; though easier to commit: and excludes perhaps the wrath of adultery, and other sins contained in that treasury; making it possibly less grave, but still the matter of mortal sin.

Now, should a couple not be utterly selfless, this does not make their relations evil: marriage is the only way to know for sure, and if both parties understand it, have no impediment to it, and plan to lifelong enter the child rearing, unifying relation of marriage, understanding its indissolvable, eternal, and contextual nature, and able to fulfill it: the bond is created.

Still, the act itself must be pure, the spilling of seed outside its place, such as when it is not placed in a certain area of the body, of a legitimate partner, or degrading practices, or cruelty, and hatred manifest in it: should be kept away: and the act itself must be freely done: and must be open to life. Also: one should focus on both in such a thing: unity, and openness to family, and a bond for as long as both do live, and on God, also: who is Love: the nature we mimic in such. It is evil even here to pursue pleasure itself, without unity, without caring for the other, and respecting their freedom, and dignity in such.

So, lust is both the "plan", the conscious desire, the willingness: manifest in certain thoughts and endorsement of certain desires: to commit acts of lust; but also: is everything higher on such scale in this. To endorse desires for the sin of lust, is the sin of lust, this is the nature of this sin.

Kissing, outside of marriage for the sake of sensual pleasure: this is sinful: even as kissing as a sign of love, friendship, or fidelity is not: but if one kisses for physical sexual pleasure, and the other for love: is not the other allowing his fellow to sin. One must be careful with kissing: that it not be lustful, as with touching: these when outside of marriage: cannot be for pleasure, even when as signs of affection; even when pleasure is gained from such.

Actions involving certain organs: however: can only be done when the requirements for unity, and for openness to childbirth: and in marriage, and these actions can only be the actions for which God designed these organs: and not unnatural simulation of certain conditions the body is programmed to respond to. There: is not exception to some acts being sinful. Masturbation, is always evil, intrinsically evil.

The person who is raped, against their will: however, does not seem to sin, least their sin is some other action: of their own: such as willfully entering into relations with the attacker, beyond what saves the life, and "reputation" (Modern Catholic Dictionary).

Yet, many a person is sainted for dying while fighting the aggressor off: such a fight to survive is not evil, nor the fight for one's dignity, in which the life is lost in pursuit of chastity: but direct suicide to avoid rape: is sinful: in fact, in ancient Israel: the Woman had to shout for help when raped, by their law.

One; like when facing a dangerous animal, or other such things: should do what they can to protect dignity (chastity) and life. One cannot be held accountable for evil done to them: only for evil which they are responsible for. What one does out of reasonable fear for their life, often is not what they would otherwise do. Saint Philomena, was sainted: for refusing to marry the Roman emperor, and dying a horrid death, as with another: yet being a victim of violence is not one's fault. But, I am not an expert on morality in this section. The resistance required: that one be guilty of nothing when raped: is to resist internally with the will, and also: to with one's physical and moral ability as long as the life and "reputation" is not endangered to a certain, horrid extent(Modern Catholic Dictionary). Reputation, surely is not something of light matters, it is not the mere threat of the spreading of a rumor or such: but a protection on dignity; surely: in either case: I cannot explain what is meant here authoritatively: but something more vital: rape always refers to manipulation via force, or endangerment to something one values: whether life, or reputation, and endangerment into such. Rape, is not the choice of the person who is the victim, and their participation, is under extreme duress, for such is the nature of rape. Even when the victim is guilty of lust, the rapist is always guilty of rape; whether by treachery, or by force, or by manipulation, or some other means of forcing a woman to act against the will in this.

In any matter, where one is unsure: of their guilt: remember; the confessional is open: find a trustworthy, godly priest, who seems good: and anonymously confess sins when needed (Catholics, otherwise, join the church via the normal way, and confess when your first confession arrives, or be baptized if you have not been baptized in the name of the Trinity: through the church structures, unless the life is threatened: and do so always in the three Names: Father, Son and Holy Spirit). I confess regularly, at least, I have in the past: whenever one is worried, a regular period of confession: also gives more hope of salvation, if one dies before one is able to attend, as one would have attended.

Likewise: those who have certain dreams; do not sins by these, as they are asleep: yet, if they choose to bring these dreams on by fantasies being endorsed, it seems they sin. Also, dreams can be a sign of things which are wrong in the life. All sins can be forgiven: if one seeks this forgiveness in the right manner: from the One Holy Church, and from God: with repentance.

Also, when one has just awoken, or is in such state, guilt may be decreased, if they then sin, even completely: as the sleeping mind is not accountable to reason: and one cannot control such adequately: and one must willingly choose to sin, to take an unreasonable cause of action, which is an offensive action to God, to sin, and must know that they are not doing right: to be fully accountable.

As to doubt of how accountable: in most matters, regular confession can help erase fear on this.


"I may have sinned this often, but I am unsure": it is simple and easy, and can help one understand when they have sinned. Job, he offered sacrifices, even when he was unsure of sin. Once a week, or month, can be adequate, and for those who sin less: once a year: but when in mortal sin: this is inadvisable, and the quicker period is advisable. Also: using the 7 deadly sins as a format on which to accuse one's self; can simplify and quicken confession. Remember, it is sinful to accuse one's self of sins you have not done: that is why I advise: could be: but unsure: when you are not sure! Of course, sins like murder, or abortion, or such: should be confessed directly, as these can well: require a special absolution, due to the nature of the offense, and more (certainly currently, in the legal framework of today: in the case of abortion): to canon law. With a sin like abortion, or willful heresy: it is important to mention it as what it is: so as to make sure the priest has the authority given, and so that he can give a special absolution for these, as there can well be a need to do so.